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Here’s something I found interesting. Many people have some sexual fantasies. Having a fantasy will benefit couples in one way or the other. It will definitely bring out the best in you when you’re in bed with your wife or partner. From then, what you been having in your fantasy, will become reality. Read on then…

What are sexual fantasies?

Fantasies are daydreams. Imaginary visions. Whimsical speculations. Wishful thinking. Everybody fantasises at some level. If you’ve ever imagined what you’d do if you won the lottery, you’ve used fantasy.

Fantasy is a fundamental part of human nature. We see active imagination as healthy in children (watch them playing and you’ll see them lost in a world of their own) but something adults should grow out of. Most people never do, however. Even if we manage to suppress our imagination during the day, all those unconscious passions emerge while we’re sleeping.

Understanding fantasies

There’s a huge range of personal taste in sexual fantasy, just as there is in everything else. But many people feel uncomfortable with their own fantasies, fearing they’re somehow weird if they’re turned on by things that are unacceptable to others.

Sexual fantasies may express an aspect of our unconscious mind. For example, fantasies about being submissive or passive may be linked to a desire to experience high sexual arousal without personal responsibility.

But fantasies are simply somewhere we can act out things we might never do in real life, such as having sex in a public place or with a particular person. And sometimes they turn us on precisely because they’re not real.

Fantasising about other people

Some people worry that fantasising about someone other than their partner is an act of betrayal, revealing either a desire to be unfaithful or that they are longer turned on by their partner alone.

In fact, this is very rarely the case. Evidence suggests that those who fantasise the most are in happy, loving, trusting relationships. It’s in this kind of context that the mind explores places the body has no intention of visiting.

The benefits of fantasy

Sex generally starts in the brain. So an active imagination can mean you’re ready for sex before anything physical has happened. Therefore, desire is heightened and arousal is much quicker.

Some people find an active fantasy life can add novelty to a long-standing sexual relationship. This can be particularly helpful if your partner is not as sexually adventurous as you are.

But conversely, if you find it embarrassing to experiment in bed, fantasy offers an opportunity to give your imagination free rein and to play out roles. It can be used as a practice arena where you can build confidence before embarking on something new.

In psychosexual therapy, fantasy is often used to block out negative thoughts. If you find during sexual encounters your mind wanders to unhelpful images or thoughts, fantasy can help you to refocus on your sexual pleasure.

Learning to fantasise

If you don’t find sexual fantasy comes easily, you can learn. Erotica can help; try exploring bookshops for erotic books and art. There’s also a wealth of magazines available to suit any taste. And your local video store will stock a range of films, from romantic and slapstick to thrillers and more explicit 18-rated movies.

Find out what turns you on. Then with the help of relaxation techniques, lie back and allow your mind to build your personal favourite.

The most common male fantasies include:

* having sex with an existing partner
* giving and receiving oral sex
* having sex with more than one person
* being dominant
* being passive and submissive
* reliving a previous experience
* watching others make love
* trying new sexual positions

The most common female fantasies include:

* having sex with an existing partner
* giving and receiving oral sex
* having sex with a new partner
* romantic or exotic locations
* doing something forbidden
* being submissive
* reliving a previous experience
* being found irresistible
* trying new sexual positions

Caution about sharing fantasies

Although some couples find that sharing and acting out their fantasies has increased trust and intimacy, others have not.

Fantasies are extremely personal. There are risks involved in disclosing them, especially to someone you care for. Consider how you’ll manage if they don’t like your fantasy or if you try acting it out and it just doesn’t work.

Sharing fantasies can be liberating, but it’s risky. Talk to your partner first about the general theme, then approach with caution.

Source: BBC.co.uk

Wow. What a question. Is Sex Necessary? Obviously when you love sex it is definitely by all means necessary. But why the question? Perhaps I am destined to find the answers right here, right now. Dare to read on? Of course you do…you pervert.

Having sex is, well, pleasurable and fun. Sometimes people sees it as a good exercise, just like playing a game of tennis or badminton with your good buddy in the backyard. Just don’t engage in sex with your good buddy if they’re not from the opposite gender. Then again, it can be done. But not for me…eww. But I don’t mind watching 2 girls having it together in my bedroom though. Then it will be a good threesome.  

Back to the story. Having sex frequently like multiple times a week (or multiple times a day) has its advantages and benefits. Okay, maybe multiple times per day is a bit too much. But within a week of good passionate sex will improve some of the body functions.

Improved sense of smell: After sex, production of the hormone prolactin surges. This in turn causes stem cells in the brain to develop new neurons in the brain’s olfactory bulb, its smell center. Try not to lite up a cigarette after sex. The smell will become too overwhelmed for some.

Reduced risk of heart disease: Like I said earlier, sex is very similar to exercise. Therefore, it can reduce the risk of heart disease. By having sex three or more times a week, men reduced their risk of heart attack or stroke by half. I don’t know about women. Maybe it will reduce too if they start to “work” harder in bed, know what I mean?

Weight loss, overall fitness: Again, sex is exercise, exercise is sex. A vigorous humping burns some 200 calories, about the same as running 15 minutes on a treadmill or playing a game of tennis. The pulse rate in a person who is aroused, rises from about 70 beats per minute to 150, the same as that of an athlete putting forth maximum effort. Hence the heavy breathing down one’s back. Uh…that doesn’t sound right.

Reduced depression: Some people drink, some take drugs, and people like me have sex to clear of any depressions. There are some other explaination of why it reduces depression. This is mainly for women. Sexually active female whose male partners did not use condoms were less subject to depression than those whose partners did. One theory of causality: Prostoglandin, a hormone found only in semen, may be absorbed in the female genital tract, thus modulating female hormones. But for us guys, the more pounding we give, the less depression we got. Period!

Pain-relief: Who cares about Panadol now? Have sex la. Here’s why. Immediately before orgasm, levels of the hormone oxytocin surge to five times their normal level. This in turn releases endorphins, which alleviate the pain of everything from headache to arthritis to even migraine. In women, sex also prompts production of estrogen, which can reduce the pain of PMS. Any ladies who are in pain right now, call me. Uh….I’m not talking about PMS pain okay. I don’t like to mess with girls who are having PMS. Except for one girl, who gets really horny when she’s having her period. You know who you are.

Less-frequent colds and flu: True. Happened to me once. I was having a nose block due to cold and it was all gone after a good round of sex. Individuals who have sex once or twice a week show 30% higher levels of an antibody called immunoglobulin A, which is known to boost the immune system.

Better teeth: What? You asked me what? Teeth? Yes, that’s correct. Teeth. Seminal plasma contains zinc, calcium and other minerals shown to retard tooth decay. So ladies, if you’re thinking of NOT taking the cum in your mouth, it would be such a waste to lose all that zinc and calcium. No wonder I saw in some porn movies that the girls have nice set of white teeth. Hmmm.

Well, those are some of the benefits that we can get during and after sex. To me, the main benefit of sex is simply, pleasure.

Back to the question. Is sex necessary? If you’re lazy to work, lazy to exercise, never think of getting involve in any sports, overweight or just plain lazybum. Then the answer is definitely yes. That if you can ever get lucky. If you do get lucky, don’t let your partner do all the work. That’s just sad man.